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Sep 21

Am sharing my three biggest tips that worked for me to achieve my dream life

1.Be brave enough to be ‘different’

My first book ‘34 Bubblegums and
Candies’ was published in 2008. It was a creative non-fiction, a genre unheard of at that time, in India. There was nothing like it in the market. They were all true incidents from my life and I was terrified. I had to
overcome fear of being different from others. It was republished in 2018 as ‘Love a Little Stronger.’ Be brave enough to be ‘different’.

2. Lose the fear of failure.

‘34 Bubblegums and candies’ (Now called ‘Love a Little Stronger’) could have bombed badly. I could have been ridiculed for writing it. It was this fear that I had to conquer. I was revealing a lot about my life—as the book has all true incidents. I had to overcome fear of failing badly. Even if you are afraid of doing something go ahead !

3. Cultivate Discipline.

In 14 years, I have written 15 books, over a 300 newspaper columns, Over a 100 poems and many many short stories. This simply would not have been possible without discipline. Discipline to me means doing something consistently.
It means turning up every day. It means committing. It means being tenacious.
Be disciplined and consistent in all you do.

If you like my content here please check out my books. They are inspiring and fast reads . Get them at your local bookstore or on Amazon.
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#successquotes #lifetips #tipsforwomen #womeninspiringwomen #womensupportingwomen #womenempowerment

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Sep 17

Never share these with others 👇🏽

1. YOUR FAMILY DISAGREEMENTS

No family is perfect, no matter how it seems from photos shared on social media! Every family has fights and disagreements. Never share this with outsiders. What happens in the family, stays within the family.
Outsiders might try to take advantage of this and you never know their true intentions. If you have one or two VERY TRUSTED friends to share it with you are lucky. But remember a friendship changes over the course of time. If it’s a very troublesome situation it’s best to share with a counsellor. (As they are professionals)

2. YOUR DREAMS

Nurture your dreams in secret. Work relentlessly towards them. Believe that they can come true. Every day, set aside time and take actions that take you closer to your goals.
But don’t share this with others. They can see it for themselves when you achieve it!
Not everyone has the best of intentions for you.
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3. YOUR PAST

What has happened is over. If you share it with others, it is simply an interesting fodder for gossip, for them. Let it stay in the past.
If it is something which might affect your future relationship with someone you intend to spend a lifetime with, then share it only with that person.

4. OTHER PEOPLE’S SECRETS

If someone has trusted you with their secret, then do not share it. Not only are you breaking their trust, but you are also putting your reputation in jeopardy. Honour your word, and keep it to yourself.

Agree ? Drop me a 💯.
Follow for more such women-centric content. I am a novelist with 15 bestsellers and my protagonists are usually Indian women who have to overcome a lot of hurdles. Check out my books at your nearest bookstore or on Amazon/flipkart.
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Sep 15

There’s not a single girl on social media I know who has not received unwanted messages from men at some point. (Worst are the dick pics. It’s nothing but harassment)
As a public figure, here’s what I do
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1. If I keep getting unwanted messages from someone, I block immediately. If it’s a dick pic I also report. It’s a no brainier but I am surprised by how many young women are hesitant to block. (It’s almost as if blocking someone is killing them!)
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2. I do not engage with trolls 🧌: There are many comments which are “baits”. They purposely say something to irk you. In my early blogging days I used to actually take time out to reply to such comments. But now when I see it’s a bait I delete the comment. DO NOT engage.
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3. I keep my family safe. I do not share specific details about my family members. I keep getting asked details about my personal life which I never share. If someone has tagged you which identifies details about your family please remove the tag and explain to the tagger later. Not everyone you come across has the best intentions. Better to be wary than sorry!
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4. I keep a tab on privacy settings. In many apps by default the setting is such that your geo- location automatically appears when you post. Also if you want to post stories about a place you are at (say a mall or a restaurant ) remember to post the stories after you leave the place !
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5. If yours is a private account accept follow or friend requests only from people you know. Even if you have a load of mutual friends first check with a mutual friend, before you accept. (This seems like common sense but many don’t do this )
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6. I do not argue with others on social media. They are not likely to see your POV just because you explain. It’s a waste of time.
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7. Remember every single thing you post on social media is “forever” even if you delete it immediately. There’s no such thing as “private” in the world of social media as anything you say or send can be screenshot, saved and circulated. Everything leaves a trace.
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Anything more you want to add ? Tell me in comments 👇🏽
#womenempowerment #socialmediatipsforwomen #besafeonline

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Sep 13

Sometimes people stop talking to us for absolutely no reason. There might not be anything that you have done or said. They might be in a space where they need time away from you.
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If they have been a very good friend , you could reach out twice (or even thrice ) and check if everything is fine.
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If you have done something to hurt them, then they will let you know, if they value the friendship enough.
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But if they say everything is fine but they are still distancing themselves from you , then take the hint and move on. (Yes, it will hurt.. but remember this 👇🏽👇🏽)
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People change. It’s not our job to figure out why. Just know that when people go out of your life it means they are making way for others who will be better for you. ❤️

Take care.
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#adviceforwomen #adviceforbrokenfriendship #peoplewholeave #friendshipbreakup #moveonfromthosepeople

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Sep 12

I am one of India’s top five highest selling authors. ( The other four are men)
Here’s what I did which helped me succeed in a male dominated industry.

1. Learnt to take rejections. My second book was rejected over forty times. I had spent over two years writing that book 📖. I accepted the rejections and kept going. The book has sold over a million copies. Remember,you can keep going even when you think you can’t.
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2. Learnt to be determined: Had I given up after the tenth or even the twentieth rejection, I wouldn’t be here today. Make determination your best friend.
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3. Always played fair: I knew of many authors who would do underhand things to artificially boost their book sales. While this gave them short term sales, those authors are nowhere in the market today. I never did any such thing. I was in this for the long term. Always play fair.
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4. Learnt to speak up for my work: I noticed that all the male authors would always promote their work. Where as women authors would somehow feel “it’s blowing your own trumpet 🎺 “ . I learnt to overcome this mindset. Alwyas speak up for the work you have done.
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5. Offered high value. Every single follower of mine is organic and they follow me as they like my content. Readers read my books and tell others about it because they genuinely find value in it. Offer high value for others in whatever you do.
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6. Did not doubt my work : I do extensive research before I write ✍🏼 my books. The worlds I create are rich, culturally and linguistically. I strive hard to ensure that the stories I tell are from the heart. Don’t doubt your work, provided you have given it all that you have
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7. Did not bother about arm chair critics . There will always be a hundred people who say that you did a thousand things wrong. Mostly they are arm chair critics who wouldn’t have achieved anything themselves. Ignore them.
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These tips can be used in any field of work
Go— conquer your dreams!
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.edited to add : It’s funny how people who know nothing about SALES of books are commenting about it.

#womensupportingwomen #womenempowerment #womeninbusiness #tipsforsuccessfulwomen #careeradviceforwomen

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Sep 10

I have been married for 27 years and this is what I have learnt about the qualities that are MOST important for a long term relationship. (Of course there can be other qualities too .. but these are the top five MUST HAVEs if you want your relationship to last)

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1. THEY ARE RELIABLE
The biggest thing in a partner is reliability.
This means turning up or calling at the time they said they would, being around when they say they will, and keeping up their word to you.
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2. THEY ARE TRUSTWORTHY
You should be able to blindly trust your partner.
Trust is a very important foundation for any
relationship. If you find them lying to you for some reason, it’s is a big red flag. Also trust is a two way street. Both should be able to trust the other.
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3. THEY HAVE THE SAME MENTAL WAVELENGTH
In a long term relationship, you will be spending many hours together. If you are on the same mental wave length there are less chances for you to get bored. Fall in love with their mind! See if they have the mental qualities you appreciate.
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4. THEIR VALUE SYSTEM MATCH YOURS
If you value kindness and honesty, and your partner doesn’t, then it is a mismatch that can lead to problems. The way you approach spending money and saving also matters. You should have similar thoughts, else it is going to lead to clashes.
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5. THEY ARE SUPPORTIVE
Good partners should cheer each other on, and be each other’s support systems. They should encourage you to do things that make you happy. You should also be able to encourage and support their dreams, which they have for themselves.
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In my twenties if you had asked me I don’t think I would have been able to list the above. It has come with many years of being together.
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@satishsshenoy : Thank you for being my Rock 💗🫶🏽❤️

What are the qualities you value ? Tell me in comments 👇🏽
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